You are Loveable!

Too many fish in the sea

In today’s world of options and choices, dating can be pretty difficult. Online dating has become the new staple for meeting new people and potential mates. If you tell someone you met on a dating app, you’re no longer stared at with disgust. These days, it’s no big deal. 

However, the problem with the general acceptance of dating apps is that everyone is now utilizing them! So in addition to meeting people the good-old-fashioned way (in line at the local Starbucks), technology has now stepped in to assist where necessary. And thus, there are a multitude of options out there for people to select from. People often operate from the stance that the grass is always greener on the other side. If one match didn’t work out, the next match is just a right swipe away!

This sucks

This mindset can leave many people feeling down. Some may even begin to beat themselves up if they are not being asked on dates or attracting potential partners. The most confident and secure person can easily fall down the rabbit hole of negativity where you feel like you are not enough. You’re not attractive enough, not interesting enough, not worldly enough, you don’t go fishing enough. You can just fill in the blanks really. 

But you are enough! Don’t judge your self-worth on the opinions of others. Because who are they? You were always beautiful and interesting. Your appearance and personality didn’t shift because you created an account on some dating app. You are still the same great person. If they can’t see that, it really is their loss. 

Science!

Dating is just a trial and error experiment until you get it right. It is an experience to find out what you like, what you’re attracted to, and what you expect from others. In addition to exploring what you have to offer to others, what your best and worst qualities are, and how you interact with your romantic interests.

Dating should be used as a way to get to know yourself better. Use dating as a period of self-reflection in order to help yourself grow into the person you want to be. Being your best and most genuine self will eventually attract that special somebody into your life. Understand that the dating experience is just information, not a standard to compare yourself to to make you feel bad. 

When you feel less than, remember all your positive qualities because those qualities are still there. You are enough. Love yourself and be kind to yourself. You are worth dating someone who will appreciate and acknowledge your great characteristics because you are loveable!

“And in the end, the love you take, is equal to the love you make.”

– Paul McCartney